Thursday, June 16, 2011

So Fresh & So Clean~ White…the UN-FORGIVING Fabric

Ain't nobody dope as me I'm dressed so fresh so clean (So fresh and so clean clean)
Don't you think I'm so sexy I'm dressed so fresh so clean (So fresh and so clean clean)
Ain't nobody dope as me I'm dressed so fresh so clean (So fresh and so clean clean)
I love when you stare at me I'm dressed so fresh so clean (So fresh and so clean clean)

I know you are bobbing in your chair as you recite the words to my favorite rap group OUTKAST's lyrical genius. This song captivates how we look and feel when we get "dressed" or as the old folks would say…"sharp as a tack". White exemplifies the essence of summer. The color white connotes purity and innocence. Wearing white well, however, is a little more complex than the simplicity suggested by the color. Whether you choice is a ultra-feminine sun dress, pencil skirt, sexy shorts, snazzy capri's, or the classic white jeans..wearing white can be tricky. The ability to pull off white and get it right should be easy, however many people…both male and female often fail at their attempt. White shows all of your imperfections, but if done properly you can look amazing, classy, and stylish. Knowing your personal limitations and what your body can and cannot wear goes a long way! Here are a few things to consider when attempting to wear white.

1) Just like style…white is not for everybody. White does not suit all people but it is a color many can wear without problems (provided the fit of the garment looks good). Warm skin tones go well with white; if you have a tan or naturally dark skin, white looks absolutely amazing. If white makes you look washed out, avoid it or try color blocking to make the look more appealing on you.

2) Select a high quality fabric…this is definitely NOT the color to be cheap in. Avoid trendy stores and purchase in stores that offer a better quality fabric.Quality fabrics are less likely to be see-through and play peek-a-boo with all things underneath. Only purchase white garments that are lined. Look for heavier cotton counts, linen and some man made fabrics as long as they are lined.

3) Check the transparency factor. When you shop for white garment, check the transparency factor. White fabrics are often see through and leave little to the imagination of what you have beneath. To do this follow these three simple steps: 1)Place the dress up against the light. 2) Hold your hand behind the garment, and under the garment. 3) Look for your hand and see how obvious it is. If you can see the color and form of your hand, that garment is going to show everything underneath creating a fashion tragedy!

4) Avoid clinging white dresses. White is not a color that lends itself to good flattering when it clings to your curves. White is not imperfection friendly. Select white dresses that billow, flounce and flow. White is about summer, freedom and breezes, so make sure that the dress reflects these features well. I suggest purchasing your item a size larger and having it tailored to fit your body. A great tailor is your friend.

(RED LIGHT SPECIAL) Wear underwear that is the same color as your skin. Do not wear white underwear, or any other color (other than your skin color) for that fact. Skin-toned underwear will ensure that nothing peeps through to draw the eye to the wrong place; use skin-coloured slips, underpants and skin-coloured bras. So, for all of my chocolate sisters…please select a chocolate bra and underpants…light skin honey's…please select a nude bra and underpants. A slip may seem old fashion, but it serves a one of your best pieces of armor to keep everything in tact….plus you will thank me later when your man sees it. Keep it sexy but clean!!

6) Don't be afraid to make it your own. Just because the invitation calls for white does not mean you can't add your own "sparkle" to it. Great accessories can change any outfit from frumps to frills. Select funky earrings, belts, glasses, and shoes to make you the shining star! With any outfit, your attitude is the best thing you can ever wear!

So…as you accept invitations to white parties across the nation, keep these things in mind. Frankie Beverly and LisaRaye make it look good, and so can you! Stay Fresh & So Clean…and if you need me to go shopping with or for you…call me because fashion is truly my passion and shopping is really my therapy!

Additional Tips from the Experts:

  • White has a "goody-two-shoes" image. It is recommended to show a little skin if you want to challenge this image a little. 
  • White at work should only be worn when the clothing item fits really well and is of good quality. Most white dresses are likely to be too summery and carefree to suit the seriousness of a business environment. 
  • White isn't always a great color if you're raising children. It won't be white for long after picking them up and running after them. Save it for the special occasions when someone else is in charge of them for a few hours. Or, purchase white fabrics that will hold up to getting bleached every time the kids attack! 
  • A slip is not just something your grandmother wore. Investing in a high quality, skin colored slip may be a lifesaver. (And as a plus, most men find a little slip peaking out when your skirt flutters very sexy.) 
  • A white dress is super cute but you don't want it to look too revealing so be sure to wear skin-colored undergarments when wearing one.

    White is my official Summer 2011 colour…so look for me out and about in plenty of bangles and lots of sparkle!

    Smiles and Sunshine…Princess Dee

    Saturday, June 4, 2011

    People don't date no more all they do is text….

    " I decided that I cried my last tears...Yesterday"- Mary Mary

    I am at the "throwing in the towel" stage of dating. I am really tired of meeting men only to be disappointed. I do not think my standards are high at all, in fact I do not have a list of what he needs to be. I have no problem with meeting men, most are attracted to me based on the physical but soon fall in love with my personality (I hope). Unlike many, I can cook from scratch( for real southern cooking)cut up a chicken, no boxes or can goods at my house. If I can't make his favorite dish, I have no problem getting the recipe from Mom or Auntie. I love sports and actually know what is going on. I am a girly Southern girl...and really should have lived during the 50's (minus the black oppression).

    So the issue I have is that men do not know how to date me. Seems as all they want to do is call and text and that does not hold my attention. What happen to asking a woman out, and actually planning a date? Do men just not do this anymore? This is what I be courted. I want to put on my pretty dress and 5 inch heel( or kitten if he happens to be short), get dolled up and answer the door and not have to think. I want him to put effort into his clothes, choice of music he plays in the car,and where he takes me to. This is what my son's father did...this is what I am use to. This is what men in the past have done...this is what my soul needs. I want this consistently. Why do men feel they can take you on one date and that be it? Or that if they call or text you that is enough? After a week if you have not asked me out or made plans, I am ready to say DEUCES! Ladies tell me am I unreasonable? Is it wrong to expect a guy that professes he is interested in you, to actually act like it. I know I am high maintenance....but I guarantee he will get so much more in return.
    Why do our men not know how to properly date? Why do they not know all it takes is planning and effort to really impress us. We are really that simple. Aside from golddiggers, and sex fiends...all we want is attention, as in undivided attention. Is effort just not that important. Do women not require this? Are they afraid to ask? I am tired of staring into space thinking is he not going to ask me out? Twiddling my thumbs and waiting, wondering what is the point. So my solution is to stop answering my phone and responding to texts, or better yet just give out my home phone (bet someone will still try to text a landline). Maybe he will get the hint. Maybe I will have to start dating men close to 50 (hypothetically)...because 35-45 year old men do not get it, or me. I have never had this problem before, shoot guys use to want to impress me. I guess they think showing up is enough, or would rather hang with other men than women...i.e. the average Greek man who spends 4-5 days out of the week with his frat. (yes, I have my thoughts on this type) How can you constantly "claim" to like me or want to date me and never ask me out?? Shouldn't your goal be to make me fall in love? Do they need to go back and watch Pepe le Pew, Popeye, or shoot even Mickey Mouse?

    You already know "residential dating" is out the is just not right. So tales of a Pretty Brown Girl in cute heels resorts to watching Law & Order and calling it a night.

    Am I asking too much? Is being courted a thing of the past? I refuse to give in and be dated...(gasp) COMMOM! There is nothing about me that is common so if texting is the way….I will pass.